SEX SEX SEX

SEX, SEX, SEX What is it about Sex? Am I the only one that is completely bewildered about the subject?  Sex is this beautiful, exhilarating, experience with limitless opportunities.....outside of marriage. After marriage it morphs into the insurmountable object wedged between a man and his wife..... How could this be?  Didn’t God make Sex specifically for marriage? Didn’t he create a way that a man and wife can spiritually, emotionally, and physically become one? So why is Sex the second most destructive force in marriage, second only to financial problems? We can create medicine for different types of Cancer, we fly to the moon, we can even teach an Ape to walk like a man, and speak.... (Just saw Planet of the Apes, Two Thumbs UP BTW) But the subject of Sex still eludes us all....... Let Mr. Serve-Her, hear your thoughts........

Don't Forget To Remember

A friend sent this to me I thought it would be something good to pass along to the married couples.  We sometimes forget these things and need to be reminded.

To keep your marriage strong, certain aspects have to be protected.  Protect your time.  Make sure you carve out time for just you and your spouse.  Hire a babysitter or trade babysitting time with another family so you can get out.  Protect your heart.  Keep your romantic thoughts focused on your mate.  Avoid situations and people that might tempt you.  Finally, protect your marriage with words.  Kind words can make your marriage stronger, but harsh words can make it vulnerable to attack.  Protect your marriage and Remember, your family first. 

Have Need of Patience

Hebrews 10:32 -36

32Think back on those early days when you first learned about Christ.j Remember how you remained faithful even though it meant terrible suffering.33Sometimes you were exposed to public ridicule and were beaten, and sometimes you helped others who were suffering the same things. 34You suffered along with those who were thrown into jail, and when all you owned was taken from you, you accepted it with joy. You knew there were better things waiting for you that will last forever.

35So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you! 36Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised.

About a week ago a minister in our church, Elisha Cole,  gave these scriptures at one of the alter calls and specifically pointed out that we have need of patience...(smh...because I knew immediately I was a culprit as well...yes me...);-)

Ahhhh alas, I finally set down to glean and read them and ask God to help me with patience, because I need it...lol Now I know we almost all think we have patience to some degree, but when I began to read the definition of what patience is I laughed hysterically...here they are:

v     The capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.

v     good-natured tolerance of delay or incompetence

Mannnnn....the last one is what made me go bannanas, "good natured tolerance of DELAY or INCOMPETENCE" 

I just got impatient reading that.....LOL

Sooooooooo...WOW we need to learn to be okay with being delayed even if it is by way of someone or soemthing that has NO CLUE....Bruuuuuuhahahahahahahaha....LOL Okay...so now we see why it takes the Holy Ghost - this patience thing can not be done by human doing! 

At ant rate, praise God we have an advocate with the father...cause Lord Jesus you know we (I) need you! Thank you Lord for your great example of patience toward us, showing us the ways that we can exhibit the fruit of the Spirit without toiling to do so...I LOVE YOU JESUS MWAH!!!!! Smooches! 

PBJ 

PS Thank you Elisha and Carliss for sharing the wisdom! 

Time???

When we think about what really matters in marriage or in life for that matter; how do we measure up? 

A question came to my mind while I was sitting at my desk. How much time do you really spend with your spouse. I have the luxury of working side by side with my husband. Yayy mee right? Well, what I know is that time spent together does not count for real!

When is the last time you just simply, unselfishly, without any agenda, just spent some plain old fashioned time with your spouse. Time that does not include asking them anythng about work, yourself, the kids, the dog, the car, the house, the job, the yard....etc...you get it!

When is the last time you just said, "Hey, can you come sit over here and tell me how you are doing?" or "What is on your mind today?"

It could mean the difference in struggling throughout the day with your companion.

Learining As I Go (Grow)

Beverly Jenkins  

Putting In The Work... by Mr. Serv-Her

Serving for Success! 

How many times have you heard someone say that "Marriage is hard, it's a lot of Work!"  When I got engaged a little more than 6 years ago, I remember so many people telling me that..... almost Warning me that marriage is "Work" as if I had to get up at 5 A.M. Strap on a hard hat and some steel toe boots, clock in and work a 24 hour shift for the rest of my life. And even now couples still come up to me and my wife and proclaim how much "Work" being married is.  They have no problem scaring the crap out of younger couples, whom believe they are marrying the Love of their lives and are going to live the rest of there life in Sweet Bliss. 

Valentine's Day Workout!

 4Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.

    5It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].

    6It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.

    7Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].

    8Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end].

Love Lifting vs. Weight Lifting

How much can you bench press?

It is valentine’s weekend and couples are scrambling around trying to figure out how to express the love they want to show to each other.  I love the concept of a special days and special moments to share with your honey. However, I am more concerned about definition. What is love? As I myself was pondering this question, it dawned on me that there is a whole load of information on what it is ‘not.’ Perhaps this is the best way to weigh yourself as an individual and see where you are "not" on the ‘love’ scale.